Tag Archives: NLP

Pacing and leading

Pacing and leading are closely related to the concept of rapport.  Pacing involves ‘matching’ someone for a while (going at their pace) until you have gained enough rapport that when you slowly start to change what you are doing (leading) … Continue reading

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What do we mean by rapport?

Rapport is fundamental to all coaching and NLP.  The thesaurus definition of rapport is: a relation of mutual understanding or trust and agreement between people a feeling of sympathetic understanding sympathetic compatibility I’d highlight a few important words from that … Continue reading

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The importance of trust

Trust is closely linked to rapport.  But although rapport can be built immediately, trust takes time.  There are things you will need to do, or demonstrate, to gain a person’s trust.  These apply across contexts – as a colleague, a … Continue reading

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Won’t you join the dance? An invitation

Some of you might have been intrigued by the question at the top of the coaching wizardry screen: "Will you, won’t you, will you, won’t you, won’t you join the dance?" You might have recognised it as the refrain from … Continue reading

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How to crack the code

I’ve been working hard over the last few days setting up my new Confident Writing blog. Some of that has been writing new content to get the blog going. But I’ve also been customising the site, adding images, links, things … Continue reading

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