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Great coaching questions

People often assume that life coaches dole out advice, a resource to turn out when you’re looking for a ‘solution’ to your ‘problem’ – and can be surprised to find that the power of coaching comes not from advice but … Continue reading

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Knowing when to pace yourself

It was the day of the marathon in Edinburgh today.  Now I’ve never run a marathon (nor, let’s be honest, am I ever likely to) but I do know that one of the main pieces of advice for running the … Continue reading

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Pacing and leading

Pacing and leading are closely related to the concept of rapport.  Pacing involves ‘matching’ someone for a while (going at their pace) until you have gained enough rapport that when you slowly start to change what you are doing (leading) … Continue reading

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What do we mean by rapport?

Rapport is fundamental to all coaching and NLP.  The thesaurus definition of rapport is: a relation of mutual understanding or trust and agreement between people a feeling of sympathetic understanding sympathetic compatibility I’d highlight a few important words from that … Continue reading

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The importance of trust

Trust is closely linked to rapport.  But although rapport can be built immediately, trust takes time.  There are things you will need to do, or demonstrate, to gain a person’s trust.  These apply across contexts – as a colleague, a … Continue reading

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